What is Gaslighting and is it Happening to You?


If you recognize any of these signs in your relationship, you might be a victim of gaslighting With the influx of sexual assault and harassment allegations flying around the term “gaslighting” has been used extensively. But what is gaslighting, really? By definition gaslighting is a tactic in which a person or entity, in order to gain more power, makes a victim question their reality. He manipulates her until what she knows to be true becomes what she thinks is true, and then she doesn’t know what’s true at all anymore. Men have used gaslighting as a tactic to quietly discredit women for years. In October, The New Yorker published a report that shows just how Harvey Weinstein gaslighted women. In 2015 during a NYPD sting operation, recording captured Weinstein admitting to groping a model named … Read More

The War At Home

How PTSD Leads to Intimate Partner Violence in the Military With the Texas Massacre showing us that even the military is not immune from domestic violence, I decided to take a closer look at the issue. What I found was both shocking and sad. It turns out that military veterans are responsible for a staggering 21% of all domestic violence nationwide. In fact, levels of intimate partner violence (IPV) in post 9/11 veteran’s communities have begun to explode. Between 2006-2011 there was a “skyrocketing” of military members charged with domestic violence at Fort Carson near Colorado Springs. During roughly the same period, PTSD rates also surged at the fort as more and more soldiers began returning home from lengthy, repeat tours in Afghanistan and Iraq (SF Gate). Why This Issue Isn’t Being Dealt With Unfortunately, … Read More

Treating Trauma in Victims of Intimate Partner Violence: A Unique Challenge

Why Effective Trauma Treatment for Intimate Partner Violence Victims is Particularly Difficult Research shows that even though there are several different treatment modalities being used today, making a full recovery from trauma can be a difficult and lengthy process. However, therapeutic and medication based interventions have proven effective with a lot of hard work and time. Sounds promising; right? Not necessarily for domestic violence victims. Most of the research currently being done on trauma treatment is focused on combat victims and military personnel. Their experience when it comes to effective treatment of trauma is often vastly different than that of a domestic violence victim. This is particularly true for victims of Intimate Partner Violence (IPV). There is ample evidence to show that IPV victims face with an especially unique set of challenges when it comes … Read More

Intimate Partner Violence and Trauma

The Complex Relationship Between Intimate Partner Violence and Trauma There is no denying the fact that there is an inextricable bond that exists between intimate partner violence (IPV) and the experience of trauma. It does not take a doctor to figure out that those who have experienced IPV will most likely develop some mental health consequences from their abuse. An earlier Pets Empowered blog post looked at the mental health effects that are most likely to occur. Some people, however, are so scarred by their abuse that they do not just experience one of two of these mental health problems. Rather these individuals become so affected, that they become “traumatized” by their experience. Just What is Trauma Anyway? Trauma is a set of symptoms that develop after experiencing or even witnessing an event so distressing … Read More

Forms of Intimate Partner Violence

A Comprehensive Look at the Many Different Forms Intimate Partner Violence Can Take. When most people think of what domestic violence is, what they are actually thinking of is Intimate Partner Violence (IPV). IPV is violence and/or aggression that takes place between two partners who are engaged in an intimate relationship. Just as every relationship is different, the form that IVP takes within an unhealthy relationship is often different as well. Common variables include the frequency and severity of the violence. One thing is clear though; IPV does not discriminate. It can happen to women and men of any ethnicity, religion, social status, age, or disability (Veterans Affairs).   Types of IPV Every relationship varies in what form of violence is perpetrated. There is a myriad of different types of IPV. A few examples are: … Read More