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British MP Calls for Domestic Violence Register

In the UK this month, a Welsh MP called Liz Saville Roberts urged the British government to introduce a compulsory domestic violence register. She is certainly not the first to address this matter, but calls for action were renewed after Theodore Johnson, who already had two manslaughter convictions under his belt, was charged with the murder of his ex-girlfriend. This has generated much conversation amongst the British press who are now asking ‘is a law-enforced domestic violence register the next logical step in protecting vulnerable people from abuse?’   The context and ‘Clare’s Law’: Since 2014 there has been legislation in place called ‘Clare’s Law’ across England, Wales and Scotland. Under ‘Clare’s Law’, anybody who suspects someone of abusive behavior can apply to the police for disclosure of their criminal record. This ‘right to ask’ measure is named after Clare Wood, who was murdered by Read More …

Moving on From an Abusive Relationship

moving on from an abusive relationship

After leaving an abusive relationship you would imagine the hard part is behind you. No more trauma. No more threats. No more fear. In reality, moving on from an abusive relationship is an uphill battle. The emotional scars of an abusive relationship can stay with you long after you leave the relationship. It is important to remember that you are entirely capable of moving on. You will be able to love and trust again, even if it takes you a while to get to there. With time, effort, support and patience you will be able to move on and break the cycle of abuse in your life. Below are tips to help you move on from your abusive relationship. Remind Yourself Why You Left Journaling about your abuse can help you remember the reasons that you left and can be particularly helpful if you’re having Read More …

Pets and Cold Weather

If you’re on the East Coast, you probably experienced some part of the recent blizzard, caused by a historic bomb cyclone on January 3. In New England, we saw two feet of snow in one day and over 75-mile-an-hour winds. Needless to say, it was cold. Unless you have a Samoyed or a Maine Coon, if it’s too cold for you, it’s probably too cold for your dog or cat. Yes, pets have fur and padded paws. Humans make up for their lack of fur and pads with clothes and shoes and gloves. So we’re about even in the winter. Pets can experience similar problems to humans in the winter. These can be as simple as dry skin or as extreme as hyperthermia. And, like humans, issues can begin to arise minutes after being outside. Keep your furry friends in mind this winter. We want Read More …

Hollywood Says TIME’S UP On Sexual Harassment!

Hollywood Announces the TIME’S UP Initiative as a New All-Inclusive, Anti-Harassment Action Plan for Women When several Hollywood women bravely accused Harvey Weinstein of sexual harassment in late 2017, no one knew it was only the beginning of a new movement for gender equality in the entertainment industry and beyond. Since then, an onslaught of accusations against men both in and out of Hollywood has shed light on what is now seen to be a systemic culture of workplace female harassment and abuse. On January 1st, 2018, over 300 powerful Hollywood women announced in the NY Times that they had formed a new anti-harassment initiative called TIME’S UP. This new alliance has put out an action plan designed to help women of all backgrounds fight for workplace equality and justice. The Harsh Reality As the #METOO campaign gripped the nation with sobering revelation after revelation Read More …

A Look at College Campuses and Title IX Reporting

It’s time to shed some light on why the outcome is so bleak for those courageous enough to come forward and report acts of sexual violence. Apart from Hollywood and the recent #MeToo movement, one of the most highly criticized areas when it comes to sexual assault allegations is higher education.    What many people don’t realize is the level of confidentiality surrounding Title IX cases and reports. Most colleges and universities have what are called “mandatory reporters” and “confidential resources”. Confidential resources are those designated by the college to have immunity from filing incident reports, so students typically feel more comfortable going to these people when they are embarrassed, confused, or conflicted about what to do next. The majority of faculty and staff are mandatory reporters, which means they are required to file a report when a student displays concerning behavior or reveals they Read More …

Do You Have Concerns About Fostering?

PetsEmpower understands that you may have concerns about fostering someone else’s pet. If you’re committed to our mission but have questions about fostering, please read on. We’ve compiled answers to some questions and concerns that new foster parents may have. What if my Foster Pet isn’t a Good Match? You want to help, but you’re more of a dog person than a cat person. Or maybe you’re afraid you’ll receive a hyperactive dog because you’re not an active person. Our goal is to build a network of options for people in crisis. We accept a variety of different animals, but that doesn’t mean you have to accept a variety of animals. If you share your preferences with us, we’ll do our best to match you with an animal. If we find a match immediately, that’s great. If not, we’ll find another home for that pet. Read More …

Home for the Holidays: Breaking Stereotypes

Dating violence doesn't discriminate

In the last two parts of our Home for the Holidays series, we looked at warning signs and ways to support victims of dating violence, and what to do if you suspect your child is abusive. In both of these situations, it’s a common bias to think of the victim as a heterosexual girl or woman, and the batterer of a heterosexual boy or man, but dating and domestic violence also occur in same-sex and transgender relationships. In fact, studies show that violence rates may actually be higher in LGBTQ communities. Warning Signs and Stories The warning signs of violence are the same in any relationship, regardless of gender, age, sexual orientation or any other trait. A boyfriend, girlfriend or spouse may insult and belittle their partner, control finances, display extreme jealousy, attempt to isolate the victim from friends and family, or assault them physically Read More …

My #METOO

My Own Journey Through Victimization, Trauma, and Redemption Through My Dog I never thought of myself as a victim of Domestic Violence (D.V.). When I first got involved as a writer with the Pets Empower blog, I did so because I was passionate about the idea of pet fostering. Never in a million years did I think I would find myself identifying with the victims of D.V., or that I would learn more about myself through my research than anything else. The Attack I remember meeting a cute guy late into the evening one night when I was at a party. He was a friend of a friend, so when he asked me to go home with him, it didn’t occur to me that I would be in any danger. We started kissing on the couch and then moved to the bedroom. I had “hooked Read More …

What is Gaslighting and is it Happening to You?

gaslighting

If you recognize any of these signs in your relationship, you might be a victim of gaslighting With the influx of sexual assault and harassment allegations flying around the term “gaslighting” has been used extensively. But what is gaslighting, really? By definition gaslighting is a tactic in which a person or entity, in order to gain more power, makes a victim question their reality. He manipulates her until what she knows to be true becomes what she thinks is true, and then she doesn’t know what’s true at all anymore. Men have used gaslighting as a tactic to quietly discredit women for years. In October, The New Yorker published a report that shows just how Harvey Weinstein gaslighted women. In 2015 during a NYPD sting operation, recording captured Weinstein admitting to groping a model named Ambra Battilana Gutierrez. He described the incident as something he’s Read More …

California Wildfire: Safe Ways to Help Animals

For the last two weeks, California and much of the western-coast has been subject to raging wildfire, caused by extreme heat, high winds and unusually low levels of humidity. The Thomas fire has so far damaged a staggering 800 homes and 230,000 acres of land across both Ventura and Santa Barbara counties.[1] While the priority has been saving as many human lives and preventing as much damage to property as possible, there has also been a lot of news coverage regarding animal safety and rescue; this applies to both livestock and household pets. Some of this coverage has provided contradictory guidance in terms of whether or not you should help these animals, and how you can do this without putting yourself at risk. With this in mind, we thought we would list a few ways that you can help both fleeing livestock and domestic animals, Read More …